"You are so brave and quiet I forget you are suffering."
So many men have internalized the lie that they have uncontrollable sex drives, and no way to control their anger. They aren’t ashamed of their abusive behavior because they see it as a something natural to them and maybe even central to their masculinity. It’s scary as hell.
When I say “boys are dumb” what I really mean is “boys have been raised in a patriarchal society that forces them into an incorrect and problematic view of masculinity that not only forces them to strip away valuable virtues from themselves, like patience and gentleness, but also forces them them to view and treat women in unhealthy ways that devalues women as people and makes them into objects purely for a man’s benefit”
but it’s a lot faster to say “boys are dumb”
Claude Monet (Fr. 1840-1926 ), Matinée sur la Seine, temps net, 1897, huile sur toile, 81 x 92 cm, collection privée
(Source: wetreesinart, via loveyourchaos)